What is so better about the other side?

I have been getting encouraging emails from Christianity.com and Proverbs 31 Ministries.  Most of these devotions are written by women (I am in no ways putting down women) and I have learned a lot from their writings.  I don’t usually use most of their stuff, because I can’t understand a lot about women and what they go through… I am a guy, its just fact.  Anyways, I really liked this devotion and thought I would share:

So be careful to do what the Lord your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left. Walk in all the way that the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess.” Deuteronomy 5:32-33 (NIV)

“Do you ever get jealous?” my friend asked me. In that moment, I had a choice to make – be honest and vulnerable with her or gloss over the truth with some spiritual platitude. To say out loud what I wish weren’t true, or purport those feelings I wish were true. “Of course!” I responded. “I struggle with jealousy more than I wish I did.” And then we spent some time talking about the things we find ourselves being jealous of, how petty we feel about it, and how we keep our focus in the right place, redirecting our thoughts to where they need to be instead of running off on a jealous tangent.

I wish I wasn’t prone to those jealous feelings. Jealous that this person got a book contract by a company that turned me down. Jealous that this person got booked to speak at an event I really wanted to do. Jealous that this person gets waaay more blog comments and waaaay more hits than I ever dreamt of. Jealous at this person’s true gift for writing, and that person’s unique blend of humor and profundity. Jealous of houses, clothes, weight. It’s so base, so silly, so human.
God has taught me much about jealousy – how to turn from it, how to guard myself against it. But unfortunately, knowing what to do and actually forcing my mind and my will to do it are sometimes two different things. Through the years, God has shown me “the rest of the story” when people I was jealous of in the past had terrible things happen to them. And I heard His whisper: “Still want her life?” Oh, how ashamed I was for wanting what was never mine to have, because I couldn’t handle the burdens that accompanied that life. He knew it, why couldn’t I accept it? Yes, the big green-eyed monster does rise up within me unbidden, too often for my taste. I want to slay him forever but he seems to have multiple lives, returning again and again to take up residence in a heart that isn’t supposed to be his home.

Do I ever get jealous? Absolutely. Do I want to be jealous? Not at all. Each day I focus on who God created me to be (complete with gifts as well as limits) and the situation He has placed me in. I re-situate my mental blinders so that I am not tempted to look to my right or my left. I keep my focus on Him, and Him alone. When I do that, jealousy has no place in my life. The trick is to keep doing that every day, learning to be content where He has me and resting fully in that.

PRAYER: Dear Lord, please help me not to be jealous of others. I know I can do this when I stay focused on You and trust Your will for my life. Please help me to keep blinders on, not looking to the right or to the left at the people around me, but constantly training my eyes to look to You and Your Word. Thank You Lord for Your perfect plan for me and I am excited to see what You will bring about in the fullness of time. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

It says in Ecclesiastes 4:4-6 “Then I saw that all toil and all skill in work come from a man’s envy of his neighbor. This also is vanity and a striving after wind. 5The fool folds his hands and eat his own flesh. 6Better is a handful of quietness than two hands full of toil and a striving after wind.”

When we work to try and better someone else because we want what they have and don’t have it ourselves, God calls it as “vanity and striving after wind.” “The Fool folds his hands and eats his own flesh.” When you are jealous of what other people have, it eats away at your flesh and you are totally consumed by it.  Your focus and heart are totally distracted and will get you no where, except in misery.

The only way that we will ever be able to “prosper” is by us working for God’s glory and not our own success.  When we are praising and glorifying God in how we live our life, He will give us the necessary tools and objects to live our lives for His glory.  Nothing more than we need, but nothing less… Only God knows what we need and He will give it to us when we truly follow after Him.

“Better is a handful of quietness…” or as Proverbs 15:16 says “Better is a little with the fear of the Lord, than with great treasure and trouble with it.”


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