good or bad

Have you ever wondered what your words do to those around you? Most of us have heard the phrase, “think before you speak”, but do we really follow that over an average period of time?  I would have to say, no, because of the fact that most of us are selfish sinners and don’t worry about the effects that our words or the tone in which the words were said will effect the person that those words were directed at.  Why should we care about words anyways, correct? They are only something that other people can hear, thoughts that come out of people’s mouths. 

Well, it’s so much more than that because words and speaking is the number one tool that we as humans communicate with one another and those words determine how someone perceives themselves and how they determine what you think of them.  As Christians, we are suppose to build one another up in what we say and how we live our lives.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”  Ephesians 4:29

I am not saying that everything has to be a flowers and candy, there can be judgment to help those that need to turn their lives back to Christ.   But the words that we say and the way that we say them, has a lasting effect on the people who are receiving those words.

“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit — you choose.” Prov. 18:21

This verse speaks of the destruction or the life renewing aspect of the words that we choose.  And that is the operative word, our choosing, because we are the one’s that know exactly why we use different words and what those words mean in that certain situation.  We are sinners, so we will make mistakes and we won’t be able to do it on our own, we need God’s help.  Hopefully as you and I are living our lives to glorify God, our goal should be to ask for His help in those situations and follow what the Bible says we should do towards others.

I found this excerpt on the back of Paul Tripp’s book War of Words, by Steve Brown and thought it was really good.  Think about it:

“Few of us really think about the power, the blessing, the gift, the effect, and the danger of our words.” Steve Brown


2 Responses to “good or bad”

  1. jerry m welch Says:

    good sound words and thanks for sharing your thoughts and beliefs. that is what works to me, using words correctly, caring about what we say and do, paying attention to what we are saying and the effects on those around us. most important as a piece to this is taking a stand on what we believe. most in our world do not take a stand on much of anything. without taking a stand we let many around us suffer, be victimized and this has gone on for much of our history as people. thanks rylan

    the quote that has gotten to me most recently is: if you do not believe in something worth dying for, there is not much reason to live.

  2. Bonnie Reed Says:

    Amen, Rylan! So very very true!
    One of my favorite verses on this topic comes from Psalm 141:3: “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth. Keep watch over the door of my lips”
    I memorized this when you three were young because I knew and saw and experienced the truth of it as a wife and mom…so many times I wish I had let the Holy Spirit control my tongue rather than my deeply thankful I am for God’s grace and forgiveness and help…love all that God is teaching you in these days!

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