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Posted in God, Holiday with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 31, 2009 by rylanreed

So, today is my birthday but I am not going to write how awesome I am or why people don’t remember me (which is not true) or anything like that.  I want to write this as a thank you letter to all of those that have been apart of my quarter-century-life and shaped it to what it is today.

I want to thank God, the God of heaven and earth, for giving me my life because without Him I wouldn’t be here.  I want to thank God for giving me breath each morning, to be able to have lived this long in His world because we should know that we might not be here the next day.  I want to thank my mom, Bonnie, for berthing me and going through the pain and turmoil that giving birth takes upon that person.  I love you mom! I want to thank my dad, Bernie, for “training up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 I know you weren’t sure if I would follow or not, but you still stuck to what God had commanded you in raising a son.  Thanks for showing me how a Godly man should live his life and how he should love his wife and children.  I love you dad! Thanks to both of you for how you trusted God in each one of our lives, for always loving us and disciplining us when we needed it. 🙂 Proverbs 23:13-14 “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. 14If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol (hell).” I want to thank my sisters, Janelle and Laura, for loving me and being there for me when I needed it, as well as telling me when I needed to give it up and stop what I was doing.  Thanks for the encouragement and grace that you have shown me through out my life. I love you sisters! I want to thank my grandparents and my Aunts and Uncles and Cousins and all my other relatives for you support, encouragement and love over the past 25 years.  I love all of you!

I want to thank all my friends for giving up their time to hangout, relax and chill; to play sports and watch sports; and do whatever other stupid things that we did.  I want to thank one of my best friends Andrew, for sticking through it with me over the past ten years or so.  We have had our differences, but you have always been around when I needed it.  I want to thank James and Matt for being great friends and Godly men, always wanting to learn more and repent more, while leading others to learn more about Christ as well.  I want to thank Corey, Brian and Kav for being good Bible Study leaders and great friends and for the time spent when I just wanted to talk.  Your presence was always greatly appreciated.  I want to thank Casey and my other Juneau brothers for sharing two of the greatest summers of my life up in Juneau Alaska, what a trip and what a time shared!  You are all brothers in Christ and good friends to me!  (if you didn’t mentioned specifically, you are in my first line… thanks for your time too)

I want to thank Pastor Doug Shada and my Uncle Doug for your time spent helping me get through a really rough time in high school.  Thanks for your patience and thoughts on what was happening.  I want to thank Bill and Kent and those in leadership with Crusade that has helped me over the past few years in growing in my faith and walk with Jesus.  I want to thank all of my supporters as well, for letting me go on this great adventure and serve me in supporting me financially and prayerfully as I do God’s work in South Africa.  Thanks to all who is letting God lead you in your lives so I could be able to see Him through you.  Thanks also, for those Godly men that showed me how a true man of God should live and work in his day to day life.



From the heart…

Posted in books, Culture, following Jesus, God with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on August 3, 2009 by rylanreed

James 4:1 “What causes quarrels and what cause fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?

Everyone has heard this statement before, “I’m just joking with ya” and it seems to make things OK.  But during those times that you or whoever else says that to someone, it usually doesn’t come across your mind to think about how that person is taking the statement.  I would say, and for the most part I believe it to be true, there is always a little truth from the heart in every joking or kidding-around statement.  And usually the person that is receiving the statement will take the little bit of truth part and run with it, having bad feelings or feelings of something that came up from that statement.  Close friends are able to joke around with each other more, just for that fact that they know each other and how each other will take the statements that they throw out at each other.  In this setting and only this setting, I believe it would be OK to give some humor to the people around you.  Lets all take a look at what we say, even if we add the ‘I’m just joking with ya’ statement right afterwards.  It could be used to put someone else down and God does not call us to do that. “Let not corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29

“As in water face reflects face, so the heart of man reflects the man.” Proverbs 27:19– I would also add with this verse, ‘so the heart of man reflects the man’ and the words that come out of his mouth. 

“The Spiritual quality of our words emanates from our hearts.” Temper Longman III (War of Words, Paul Tripp)

good or bad

Posted in books, Culture, following Jesus, God with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on July 24, 2009 by rylanreed

Have you ever wondered what your words do to those around you? Most of us have heard the phrase, “think before you speak”, but do we really follow that over an average period of time?  I would have to say, no, because of the fact that most of us are selfish sinners and don’t worry about the effects that our words or the tone in which the words were said will effect the person that those words were directed at.  Why should we care about words anyways, correct? They are only something that other people can hear, thoughts that come out of people’s mouths. 

Well, it’s so much more than that because words and speaking is the number one tool that we as humans communicate with one another and those words determine how someone perceives themselves and how they determine what you think of them.  As Christians, we are suppose to build one another up in what we say and how we live our lives.

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”  Ephesians 4:29

I am not saying that everything has to be a flowers and candy, there can be judgment to help those that need to turn their lives back to Christ.   But the words that we say and the way that we say them, has a lasting effect on the people who are receiving those words.

“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit — you choose.” Prov. 18:21

This verse speaks of the destruction or the life renewing aspect of the words that we choose.  And that is the operative word, our choosing, because we are the one’s that know exactly why we use different words and what those words mean in that certain situation.  We are sinners, so we will make mistakes and we won’t be able to do it on our own, we need God’s help.  Hopefully as you and I are living our lives to glorify God, our goal should be to ask for His help in those situations and follow what the Bible says we should do towards others.

I found this excerpt on the back of Paul Tripp’s book War of Words, by Steve Brown and thought it was really good.  Think about it:

“Few of us really think about the power, the blessing, the gift, the effect, and the danger of our words.” Steve Brown

What is so better about the other side?

Posted in Culture, following Jesus, God with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on May 23, 2009 by rylanreed

I have been getting encouraging emails from and Proverbs 31 Ministries.  Most of these devotions are written by women (I am in no ways putting down women) and I have learned a lot from their writings.  I don’t usually use most of their stuff, because I can’t understand a lot about women and what they go through… I am a guy, its just fact.  Anyways, I really liked this devotion and thought I would share:

So be careful to do what the Lord your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left. Walk in all the way that the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess.” Deuteronomy 5:32-33 (NIV)

“Do you ever get jealous?” my friend asked me. In that moment, I had a choice to make – be honest and vulnerable with her or gloss over the truth with some spiritual platitude. To say out loud what I wish weren’t true, or purport those feelings I wish were true. “Of course!” I responded. “I struggle with jealousy more than I wish I did.” And then we spent some time talking about the things we find ourselves being jealous of, how petty we feel about it, and how we keep our focus in the right place, redirecting our thoughts to where they need to be instead of running off on a jealous tangent.

I wish I wasn’t prone to those jealous feelings. Jealous that this person got a book contract by a company that turned me down. Jealous that this person got booked to speak at an event I really wanted to do. Jealous that this person gets waaay more blog comments and waaaay more hits than I ever dreamt of. Jealous at this person’s true gift for writing, and that person’s unique blend of humor and profundity. Jealous of houses, clothes, weight. It’s so base, so silly, so human.
God has taught me much about jealousy – how to turn from it, how to guard myself against it. But unfortunately, knowing what to do and actually forcing my mind and my will to do it are sometimes two different things. Through the years, God has shown me “the rest of the story” when people I was jealous of in the past had terrible things happen to them. And I heard His whisper: “Still want her life?” Oh, how ashamed I was for wanting what was never mine to have, because I couldn’t handle the burdens that accompanied that life. He knew it, why couldn’t I accept it? Yes, the big green-eyed monster does rise up within me unbidden, too often for my taste. I want to slay him forever but he seems to have multiple lives, returning again and again to take up residence in a heart that isn’t supposed to be his home.

Do I ever get jealous? Absolutely. Do I want to be jealous? Not at all. Each day I focus on who God created me to be (complete with gifts as well as limits) and the situation He has placed me in. I re-situate my mental blinders so that I am not tempted to look to my right or my left. I keep my focus on Him, and Him alone. When I do that, jealousy has no place in my life. The trick is to keep doing that every day, learning to be content where He has me and resting fully in that.

PRAYER: Dear Lord, please help me not to be jealous of others. I know I can do this when I stay focused on You and trust Your will for my life. Please help me to keep blinders on, not looking to the right or to the left at the people around me, but constantly training my eyes to look to You and Your Word. Thank You Lord for Your perfect plan for me and I am excited to see what You will bring about in the fullness of time. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

It says in Ecclesiastes 4:4-6 “Then I saw that all toil and all skill in work come from a man’s envy of his neighbor. This also is vanity and a striving after wind. 5The fool folds his hands and eat his own flesh. 6Better is a handful of quietness than two hands full of toil and a striving after wind.”

When we work to try and better someone else because we want what they have and don’t have it ourselves, God calls it as “vanity and striving after wind.” “The Fool folds his hands and eats his own flesh.” When you are jealous of what other people have, it eats away at your flesh and you are totally consumed by it.  Your focus and heart are totally distracted and will get you no where, except in misery.

The only way that we will ever be able to “prosper” is by us working for God’s glory and not our own success.  When we are praising and glorifying God in how we live our life, He will give us the necessary tools and objects to live our lives for His glory.  Nothing more than we need, but nothing less… Only God knows what we need and He will give it to us when we truly follow after Him.

“Better is a handful of quietness…” or as Proverbs 15:16 says “Better is a little with the fear of the Lord, than with great treasure and trouble with it.”